As a Type 7 in the Essential Enneagram, an Adventurer, you have the guts to try new things and you have a unique sense of style. You´re a stimulating conversationalist, and you need someone who can keep up.
You seek to experience and enjoy life ot its fullest. You keep your options open and life upbeat. You put your energy into using your active imagination.
You hate being put in a box, and you resist constraining rules and limitations. Nothing breaks your upbeat spirit quicker than repetitive, boring tasks and dull routines.
Many people believe that as an Adventurer you can´t keep commitments and try to get out of painful and trying situations. In fact, you can sometimes end up staying in relationships that are not good for either person because you can always see the posibilities.
And when something means a lot to you, you can be counted on to stick with a situation or job and to make personal sacrifices and commitments to do so.
In love, your ideal partner will be someone who respects your independence, who doesn´t feel the need to keep tabs on you and who doesn`t cling to you in any way.
Your partner needs to support you when you slow down and when you stick with your commitments. He also needs to let you know what and how important his own needs and wants are. To encourage you to deal with pain, fear, and restlessness rather than escaping from these feelings. And to help you keep things simple and in the present.
You are likely to get attracted to Types 5 or 1, the Observer or the Perfectionist. An Observer is someone who is knowledgeable, thoughtful, calm in crisis, respectful, keeps confidences, and appreciates simplicity. A Perfectionist is idealistic, self-reliant, industrious and has integrity. He is always concerned for improvement. He puts forth a lot of effort and is a keeper of high standards. He is highly responsible.
However, as you search for your life partner, remember that „the success of a relationship relies more on both partners` level of self-awareness and their ability to love and accept love through their specific love language“.
Therefore, type compatibility is more about having similar levels of self awareness than it is about personality type.
From the almost two-thousand women whotook my What Type of Girlfriend Are You Quiz, 10.1% of them are Adventurers. It´s the fourth most-numbered personality type in the Enneagram. At least according to my data, there´s a significant number of women who are Adventurers.
According to a legend, Mr. Opportunity is bald and has only one hair sticking out in front of his head. Once he faces a person, that person has to be quick and grab his hair. Because once he turns his back, the opportunity is gone forever.
I would bet that once Mr. Opportunity faces you, you are quick enough to grab his single hair.
Adventurers are known to relish options. They want to grab as much opportunities as possible. When it comes to possibilities, to an Adventurer the sky´s the limit.
What shaped your love for adventure?
Each of us developed one of the nine patterns in the Enneagram to protect a specific aspect of the self that was threatened as our personality was developing (Daniels & Price, 2000).
When you were a child, the way your parents or caretakers raised you influenced the development of your longing for pleasant experiences and adventures. It was your way to escape pain. Growing up you picked up the wounding message that „you´re on your own. No one´s there to support or take care of you.“
When confronted with danger, you used charm to escape scolding, punishment or humiliation. And when experiencing pain, you escaped from painful feelings by retreating to your mind to imagine exciting, happy adventures.
As you become an adult, you no longer get satisfied with simply imagining adventurous activities, you actually chase them and experience them. You want to live life to the fullest.
Being an Adventurer you have many strengths. But your constant need to escape and avoid pain has its dark side which can negatively affect your relationships.