As a Type 6 in the Essential Enneagram, the Loyal Skeptic, your personality range from introverted and cautious to extroverted and confrontational.
You are trustworthy, loyal, responsible, inquisitive, a good friend, caring, collaborative, analytical and persevering, but also sometimes overly doubtful or skeptical, uncertain and worrying.
Although some people may say that you are pessimistic and non-trusting, the reality is that you can be very trusting as you gain confidence in another person or a situation. Far from being pessimistic, you mostly find positive solution to the hazards you experience in life.
In love, you need someone who won´t react to your overreactions and anxiety. You´re most likely to be well-matched with someone who will work through things with you, as you need to talk things out as you weigh the pros and cons of every situation.
Since you struggle with having confidence in yourself, you procrastinate often. So you need the gentle and optimistic encouragement from your partner.
Furthermore, your partner can support you by being consistent and trustworthy with you. He needs to be self-disclosing and to encourage you to be self-disclosing as well. He needs to counter your doubts and fears with positive and reassuring alternatives that are realistic.
You are likely to get attracted to Types 8 or 9, a Leader or a Peacemaker. A leader is someone who´s direct and in-charge. He meets challenges head-on, and he´s unafraid of being honest, even when it´s difficult. He will be your protector. A peacemaker is a receptive listener, supportive and good-natured.
However, as you search for your life partner, remember that „the success of a relationship relies more on both partners` level of self-awareness and their ability to love and accept love through their specific love language“.
Therefore, type compatibility is more about having similar levels of self awareness than it is about personality type.
From the almost two-thousand women who took my What Type of Girlfriend Are You Quiz, 7.9% of them are Loyal Skeptics. It´s not the least-numbered personality type in theEnneagram, but also not the most.
At least according to my data,there´s a significant number of women who are loyalists.Loyal Skeptics are known for theirunwavering loyalty and constant anxiety.
You are extremely loyal to the people you love and trust, as well as the community you belong to and the causes that you believe in. You also constantly battle with anxiety because you see the world as a dangerous place. You are wired to anticipate possible dangers and then protect yourself from them.
What shaped your skepticism?
Each of us developed one of the nine patterns in the Enneagram to protect a specific aspect of the self that was threatened as our personality was developing (Daniels & Price, 2000).
When you were a child, the way yourparents or caretakers raised you influenced the development of yourconstant fear. It was your way to protect yourself from possible dangers.
Growing up you picked up the wound in message that adults, or those in authority, can´t be trusted. Maybeyou grew up with an alcoholic father or a depressed, abusive mother, but you most certainly grew up in an unstable environment where you learned to never let your guard down or else, you would get caught unaware.
Being a Loyal Skeptic you have manystrengths – one of which the ability to scan dangers and avoidthem. But your constant fear and anxiety have their dark side whichcan negatively affect your relationships.