As a Type 3 in the Essential Enneagram, an Achiever, you are very hard-working. You are energetic, goal-oriented and self-assured.
You like to get things done quickly and effeciently. You love competition. And of course, you love achieving recognition for what you´ve accomplished. You don´t shy from promoting yourself. You put your energy into looking good, and you´re always poise.
Your biggest strengths are leadership, being personable, practical, competent and efficient. You inspire „hope“ on others, and you´re enthusiastic.
Achievers are often perceived as caring only for their own goals, efficiency and image, but in fact, Achievers can be extremely caring people who bring positive, can-do attitude to doing for others.
In love, you need a partner who is independent enough to leave you alone while you focus on your work and who has a peaceful disposition. You practically need a partner who´s just as focused on their own success.
Since you´re constantly worried about NOT achieving the kind of succees you´d like to achieve in the world, you need someone who can tell you how proud he is of your accomplishments.
Your partner can support you by encouraging you to pay attention to „feelings“ and „relationships“. Showing you he cares about you for who you are, NOT for what you have accomplished. Being supportive when you tell him what is really true to you, as well as letting you know what is really important to him. Reminding you to slow down and smell the roses.
You are likely to get attracted to Type 1 personality, the Perfectionist. A Perfectionist is idealistic, self-reliant, industrious and has integrity. He is always concerned for improvement. He puts forth a lot of effort and is a keeper of high standards. He is highly responsible.
However, as you search for your life partner, remember that „the success of a relationship relies more on both partners` level of self-awareness and their ability to love and accept love through their specific love language“.
Therefore, type compatibility is more about having similar levels of self awareness than it is about personality type.
From the almost two-thousand women who took my What Type of Girlfriend Are You Quiz, 10.5% of them are Achievers. It´s the third most-numbered personality type in the Enneagram, next to the Giver and the Romantic, at least according to my data.
This supports the fact that many women are wired to succeed, ready to roll up their sleeves and work hard in order to reach their goals.
What shaped your desire to achieve?
Each of us developed one of the nine patterns in the Enneagram to protect a specific aspect of the self that was threatened as our personality was developing (Daniels & Price, 2000).
When you were a child, the way your parents or caretakers raised you influenced the development of your need to achieve.
Growing up you picked up the wounding message that „it´s not okay to have your own identity or feelings“. You strived to become the ideal person that your parents or caretakers wanted you to be – someone who is successful, an achiever, and always in the dean´s list.
You had to set aside your true self in order to meet your parents´ expectations and to become successful according to how they define „success“ – whether it be in the academics, sports, art or music.
Being an Achiever you have many strengths. But your drive for success also has its dark side which can negatively affect your relationships.